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This Week’s Newsletter

A look at the difference between the things we can change vs. the things we cannot
Why this shift in perspective matters for your goals

Jenn’s Monthly Book Club

This Month’s Pick: What Got You Here Won’t Get You There by Marshall Goldsmith

Focusing on What You Can Control

Happy Sunday!

Before we dive in, I have two exciting announcements:

Free Content Creation Q&A (January 29 at 7 PM EST)
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Now that we got that out of the way, let's get into today's topic. How many of you feel personally victimized by ALL the things that life throws at us? 🙋🏾‍♀️

We all deal with "stuff" in life that makes us want to throw our hands up and scream, “Why is this happening to ME?”

But the truth is, life is a mix of things we can control and things we can’t. It sounds obvious, yet it’s so easy to get caught up in the worry, frustration, or disappointment over things that are just outside our control.

What I Can’t Control

How someone perceives me
Other people’s behavior
Where others place their attention or energy
The situations I encounter day to day
How others choose to speak

What I Can Control

How I respond to situations
My habits, patterns, and behaviors
Where I place my attention (and therefore, my energy)
The meaning I assign to each situation

When you notice yourself getting flustered or stressed, ask:

Is this actually within my power to change?

Is this actually my problem is fix?

As women (and mothers even) we love to take everyone's problem and make it our own.

But one your take a critical look at what may be bothering you, you may every well realize that it has nothing to do with you.

Then you can redirect your energy toward something you can influence. This mental shift not only lowers stress, but it also keeps you moving forward on your own goals.

It keeps you focused!

3x3: Three Ways to Practice controlling the things that you can

Check Your Habits
Pick one habit you want to either start or let go of. Focus on it this week. Remember, building or breaking a habit is completely within your control.
Direct Your Attention
Next time you catch yourself obsessing over someone else’s behavior, pause and ask, “Where can I put my energy instead?” For example, if a friend is being distant, you can’t force them to talk, but you can use that time to work on your personal project.
Choose Your Meaning
We often assign negative interpretations to situations without even realizing it. Challenge yourself this week: whenever you feel upset, reframe the event. Ask, “What if this could be an opportunity or a lesson instead?”

January's New Book

We’re still reading What Got You Here Won’t Get You There by Marshall Goldsmith this month. It’s all about identifying those habits that might be holding us back from our next level.

Letting go of what you can’t control is a big theme in personal growth, so this week’s topic ties in perfectly with the book’s insights.

Let’s make 2025 the year we finally follow through on what matters most.

Weekly Reflection

The question I am asking myself this week ❓
Where in my life am I spending energy on things I can’t control, and how can I redirect that energy toward what I cancontrol?

This week’s quote that made me think 💬

“It’s not the situation, but whether we react (negative) or respond (positive) to the situation that’s important.” – Zig Ziglar